Recently while attending a psychological education conference I not only came across selfish attitude of today’s human being but it also unveiled some key factors behind it. In every walk of life, we tend to have self-centered attitude. Leaving others for the sake of hell, every individual wants to pave his/her own way only. Consequently we flop nationally. Let’s be precise and observe the example together. In our educational structure, we are taught to “compete with others”. A person, in order to prove his/her abilities and “defeat” his opponent puts day in day out efforts. On the other hand the opponent also moves heaven and earth for the very same purpose. And eventually on the day of competition one outshines other. One becomes victorious and the other defeated. Now if we observe bit rationally, the victorious is also beaten at the same time. See, both of the competitors are the sprouts of the same tree, Pakistan. Both have to lead “one” country in future. Their combination in form of Mr. A(victorious) + Mr. B(beaten)=Pakistan. So in this way though Mr. A wins individually but nationally he is defeated as he is contributing to Pakistan and Pakistan also has to pocket one individual who is defeated (by him). Two members of the same the team (country) but one of them wins and the other loses. How inauspicious it’s!
Actually the thing is that seed of competition between two individuals implants the roots of “self-centeredness”. Most of the times both of them don’t appropriately share with each other the body of knowledge they possess. As they keep some part of the knowledge as key secret to be used in examination in order to secure “first position”. (Some may not agree with this viewpoint but sane observation asserts, this attitude does exist specially among position holders. As when there is competition between two individuals, none of them would be able to outshine the other unless one possesses some extra points in his/her mind, specifically to be used in final examination.) Consequently, one leaf of the tree is fruitful and the other of the same is autumn stricken. This certainly leads to an imbalanced nation.
Confused? Indeed a bit! As if we won’t compete with others how would we excel then? How our performance would get improved? These are the queries that might have sprouted in your mind right now. The answer is, “compete with your own self”. In every exam, regardless to the performance of your class fellow, compare your performance with that of yours in past. If it’s is improved, congrats you have got the first position. And if it is not, even then the ball is in your court. You don’t need to be demoralized. You are not defeated as your competent was your own self. You couldn’t defeat yourself. Who is victorious then? Certainly, yourself! Isn’t it? Challenge yourself once again, work harder and defeat yourself in next attempt.
The greatest advantage of this mindset is that it won’t let you be depressed at any phase of your life. Your motivation and will power would always remain accelerated. And one day you definitely would achieve what you wished for. You’ll be victorious, your nation will be victorious, and your homeland will be victorious. No one would be defeated then. The celebrations will be up to seven skies. Also this state of mind will reduce evil feelings of jealousy. The buds of brotherhood and courtesy will take the roots and eventually will result in a fertile tree in form a successful and united nation.
Nevertheless, one thing that is worth mentioning in this entire scenario is the strength with which you challenge yourself. Mind it, it’s is your “passion” which drives you towards your destination. It should always be in top gear and it’s only possible if one keeps it focused towards its target and recalls again and again, “I’ll defeat myself, I’ll reach the target. I’ll show the world I’m not less than anyone”.
So today, let’s decide to fail the failure permanently by shifting our track from “healthy competition with others” to “competition with our own-selves”. Just give it a try and experience a smoothly successful life…Best of luck. :)